Joy of sex? Think again: Couples who indulge in extra nights of passion end up feeling more miserable

Researchers say extra nights of passion may leave people feeling tired out. Scientists from U.S. studied intimate habits of around 80 married couples. Half asked to have sex twice as often and others told to stick to routine.Those who had more sex had reduced sexual happiness and enjoyment.

It seems you really can have too much of a good thing. Having more sex didn’t make couples happier, it made them more miserable, a study found.
The researchers said the extra nights of passion may have left participants tired out. Alternatively, the couples may have come to view sex as a chore. The finding comes from US researchers who studied the intimate habits of around 80 married couples.
Half were asked to try to have sex twice as often as usual for three months and the others seemingly drew the short straw by being told to stick to their normal routine.
The men and women, who were aged between 35 and 65, filled in psychological surveys at the start and end of the study, as well as daily assessments of their mood.

Those prescribed to have more sex didn’t quite manage to double their efforts but they did increase the number of sessions by more than 40 per cent. This meant they averaged nearly nine sessions a month, rather than six.
However, the effects were unexpected. Lead researcher George Loewenstein, said: ‘This is the first study to assess whether increased frequency really does lead to greater happiness.
‘Our main finding is surprising and shows that people who increased frequency had reduced happiness and sexual enjoyment.’

Libido also fell, the Journal of Economic Behavior & Organization reports. Professor Loewenstein, of Carnegie Mellon University in Pennsylvania, said the extra activity may have proved exhausting.
However, he thinks a more likely explanation is that being ordered to have more sex turned it from a pleasure into a duty. In other words, spontaneity may be key. So next time you want to get down and dirty with your partner, maybe add some viewing pleasure and see where things go!
The professor, a psychologist and economist, said: ‘Luring couples into having more sex – through travelling to new places or staying in hotels, or perhaps even counselling – rather than directives, might be a better way of improving relationship quality and happiness.’
Professor Mike Wyllie of the team of scientists that invented Viagra, described the results as an example of interesting statistics that do not reflect real life. He added: ‘A survey of any physician’s office would undoubtedly show many more patients there to discuss too little sex and few, if any, too much.’