Two boys used to pass by a very beautiful fence on their way to school everyday, they would look at the fence on their way to school and admire it’s beauty but never did they once attempt to touch it. One day, the owner of the fence decided to use a spray can to inscribe the words “DO NOT TOUCH” on the fence. The boys passed the next morning and upon seeing the words, they decided to find out why the owner had forbidden people from touching the fence. The boys began to touch the fence and write their own words too.
What is the moral of this lesson? What is considered as forbidden attracts people. When the fence had no restrictions, the boys never touched it, but when it was tagged as forbidden, the boys went ahead to touch it.
This is the story of how children, teenagers and youths perceive sex these days. Statistics show that children who are taught about sex by their parents are less liable to have sex due to peer pressure than children whose parents do not.
Everyday, our children get the wrong information about sex from the media, peers and even novels. If we don’t beat the public and teach them about sex ourselves, we might have to deal with the consequence later.
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I did not learn about sex from my parents, my mother was not so comfortable talking about sex with her children and so whatever I knew about sex when I was a teenager was learnt from romantic novels and friends. I had a warped image of sex; I thought sex was something that should not spoken of, a forbidden act that is very pleasurable.
It is time parents rise and determine the kind of information their children get on sex. Understandably, most parents are shy about the topic and do not know how to discuss it with their children.
Here are important key points you should discuss with your child about sex.
- Teach them that sex is not dirty. It is actually a beautiful act when done within the confines of a loving and mature relationship.
- Teach them that sex is not a synonym of love as this is the narrative being pushed by movies and novels.
- Teach them that it is okay to have sexual urges but wrong to act on it at their age.
- Teach them to value their bodies.
- Teach them how to interact with other people.
- Teach them to trust you enough to tell you when they have “crushes”.
- Teach them to trust you enough to tell you when someone touches them inappropriately.
It is important you teach your children about Sex yourself and save them the pain that comes from the consequences of learning the wrong thing about sex from peers, movies and books.
