1. Can you take us through the experience that led you to write this book?
I married quite late having desired to be married since I was twenty-one and eligible to be, as a young graduate and Christian. The period between then and when I eventually married in my mid-forties which I refer to as my “waiting season” of marital fulfillment is a very defining part of my life which has contributed greatly in shaping me to be who I am today in terms of my purpose, vision, destiny, character and faith in God, among other things. I cannot talk about my life, where I’m coming from and where I am going to, without reference to this period of my life. It was a very interesting period of my life, over twenty-years of waiting and waiting, while running the race of life. It was a period of expectations, loneliness, disappointment, adaptation to being a “mature singe Christian woman”, fulfilling purpose irrespective of being married or not, contending with the biological clock ticker, relationships etc.
Having also to have had the opportunity to speak at various meetings and fellowships to single women especially after I got married, I recognized a need to put down in writing in order to reach a wider audience, how God sustained me throughout this period f my life.
2. What do you hope to achieve with this book?
It’s all about encouragement, hope and keeping the faith. Not just in waiting for a life partner, but in any area of our lives which we are trusting for fulfillment. My desire is that reading the book will encourage fellow sisters not give up, to continue holding on in their faith no matter what the situation is and that God is still in the business of answering prayers. Most importantly, not be discouraged but continue to make the most of this period of their lives in working towards fulfilling their destinies. This is the reason why the mode of writing employed is geared towards being real, practical, humorous and relatable in such a way that others can identify with.
3. What has been the feedback so far since writing this book?
The feedback has been very positive and encouraging, from both men and women alike. The book is accompanied by a music CD titled “Your Season” and the feedback on both the content of the book and the music has shown that indeed there is a place for the message and it is timely.
4. The book speaks to the single waiting Christian woman-what key characteristics in your opinion are essential through this waiting period?
Perseverance, Patience, Faith, Self-belief, Diligence
5. How should a single woman stay positive and happy during this waiting period?
Belief in oneself, confident, focuses on achieving ones vision and dreams. Most importantly, have a relationship with God.
6. Would you say your career choice had an impact on how long you had to wait?
Not at all! As a young graduate, I started working in the banking industry and from there to the technology industry and then back to the banking industry. There was never any doubt in my mind that I wanted to be a wife and mother along with having a career for as long as I can remember. The thought and understanding was that everything will fall into place at the right time. I just had no inkling that it would take so long.
7. Would also say being perceived as financially comfortable affected the type of people that approached you?
In a way. yes.
8. How did you handle it when you felt those who approached were more for your money rather than for who you are as a person?
As someone trusting God, there gets a point where you feel you need to lower your standards a bit so as to accommodate and not being too rigid and so therefore different categories of men may approach. The onus is for one to prayerfully decipher and open the eyes wide to see the true motive. The truth is, when your heart is right, such reasons are eventually reveled for what they are.
9. How did you know you have met the right person when you met your husband?
To say truth, I fell in love. He had a good number of the qualities I had always desired in the man of my dreams since I was a young girl and as a matured woman – spiritually, physically and character-wise.
10. How long did you court after meeting your husband-to-before eventually getting married?
We courted for one year
11. You sing, write and at the same time you are a banker. How do you find time for all these?
When God gives you an assignment, you will find time out of no time. It’s about sacrifice. It is basically sacrificing my free time – at night, on weekends, public holidays, and vacation time.
12. What are your top three advice for ladies waiting for their “Prince Charming”?
1. Have a relationship with your maker
2. Don’t be pretentious, be at alert and be watchful
3. Get busy doing something fulfilling and rewarding
13. How do you retain your faith in God when what you want most is not happening?
As in any situation when things are not working out as they should, stay positive, surround yourself with people of like faith who can encourage you, pray without ceasing, even when you seem to get tired on praying, don’t up, stay focused!
