Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “O company of women give alms, and be frequent in asking Allah for pardon, for verily I see you mostly to be people of the Fire.” The women asked, “And what is in us that we are mostly people of the Fire?” Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “You are given much to cursing, and you are thankless to your husbands.” [Sahih Muslim]
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It is no small favour to be spared from having to go out in scorching heat or chilling snow everyday to put food on the table. So women should first be thankful to Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) that He has arranged for their needs to be taken care of while they remain in the safety and comfort of their homes. Secondly, their gratitude should be directed towards their husbands whom Allah has made responsible for taking care of their needs. Saved from the extremes of weather and the jostling in public transportation, saved from unsolicited looks and groping hands, saved from having to abandon her babies to day care and smother her maternal instinct; should she not then overlook the shortcomings in her husband and be grateful to him instead?
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Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “He who is not thankful to men is not thankful to Allah.” [Tirmidhi]
Why is the word “Thank you” so difficult to utter? Some can spit it out, but can they say what it is supposed to mean: “I am grateful to you.” Some think that it is a formality not necessary to use in the immediate family, with one’s spouse, children, siblings, parents, etc; while, in fact, these are the relationships that require acknowledgement the most! If someone gets you a glass of water, or irons your clothes for you, or drives you somewhere, or cooks for you, or helps you with your homework… they deserve your gratitude!
If they did it for Allah’s pleasure, He will surely reward them; but that does not mean that the recipient of the favour should not express his/her gratitude. This is something that Rasul Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) promotes in this hadith, that we thank Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) and the channel through which He chose to do us the favour.
